Sofía (1996): Argentinian, journalist student
1- What do you understand under feeling lost?
When I am feeling lost, I am not able to see the horizon which makes it very difficult for me to imagine a bright future. Whatever I do doesn’t make sense at that moment.
2- Please, describe a specific situation when you felt that way?
Last year, I moved to Buenos Aires in order to finish my economics degree. After coursing analytical mathematics 2, it became so clear to me that this doesn’t fulfill me at all.
It was scary as I blamed myself for not having my life figured out with 22 years. I also felt very immature. I thought that I have been wasting my time for about five years. Heavy and negative thoughts overwhelmed me and it somehow felt like I was dying.
Still, quitting my studies felt like the right thing to do.
At first, my mum thought that I was completely out of my mind, that I was crazy. In the beginning, she even said a lot of bad things to me what surprised me as we have a very strong connection. Fortunately, she ended up apologizing as she only wants me to be happy.
Her reaction was normal. I would also worry about my own child in this situation.
3- What helped you to overcome or to deal with the situation?
- Talking to friends that went through similar situations
- Simon Sinek: Start with why
4- Which main lesson or result did you get out of this challenging time?
- I had to feel lost in order to take action.
- Feeling lost made me aware of my behavior patterns.
- My expectations are what limits me.
- Being open to changes is essential.
5- What could be done to help somebody who is feeling lost?
First of all, listen. Don’t impose anything on that person and simply be there for him/her. Maybe the only thing needed was to share his/her stories. Also, encourage him/her to get out and move.
6- Why did feeling lost become such a common experience nowadays?
Before, you were obliged to hide the feeling of being lost. Today, people can openly share that they are lost what is due to an increasing social consciousness.