Sam (1995): Swiss-Austrian. Samwhere
1- What do you understand under feeling lost
To me, feeling lost is like not knowing what to do with my life. In other words, it is a lack of meaning to my actions.
2- Could you describe a specific occasion when you felt this way?
I quit my job in order to pursue my goals of getting involved in socially responsible projects. There were so many opportunities out there in Berlin that I imagined it would be no problem to find what I was looking for.
However, 2 month later, I was still standing there empty handed. After tons of applications and only a couple unsuccessful responses. Nobody seemed to be interested.
Getting rejected was nothing personal but very frustrating. My expectations weren’t met and this desperation somehow clouded my ability to see other opportunities.
The day came when I considered to simply get a job again. Great… I felt lost. I was so filled up with fears and doubts that I forgot WHY I was doing all of this in the first place.
On one hand, my mind whispered to me saying: “I told you so, Sam… Just get whatever. You have no degree. You have no job right now. Be grateful if you are lucky enough to get anything. ”
On the other hand, something inside me kept on insisting: “Common Sam, you did not stop your degree, help out at projects all over the world and learn so many change-maker skills only to end up doing something of no meaning to you!”
This was a battle between my mind and my heart. It was hard. However, just writing about it, I see clearer that it is a first world problem but still the struggle felt so real.
3- What helped you to deal with those moments?
Nothing else helps me as much as my family. They are always there for me and somehow know to make the right questions. After calls with them, I feel confident and trusting again. Thanks for so much love!
Sometimes, all I needed was writing my thoughts down into my adventure book or talking to my friends. It makes me realize that I am not alone and it reminds me of what really matters in life.
It was the first thing I did in the morning. I simply took time to observe my thoughts, visualize my wishes and be grateful. Of course, it doesn’t always work the same way but it is incredibly helpful.
My mind completely takes me away from reality when I am feeling lost. Doing any kind of sport helps me to get rid of all the internal noise. What is more, trying out different activities is what makes me happy. However, Yoga served me the most as it is so diverse. If you need an intense exercise or something to calm down and tune in with yourself, it is ideal.
4- What could be done to educate better about this topic?
The shame behind the feeling of being lost is the worst part of it. From my point of view, we should start talking about it in our society. No matter if it is in educational institutions, at work or at home. As long as it remains a taboo or as something to be ashamed of, it will be seen as an issue instead of an opportunity.
5- Which positive lesson or result did you get out of feeling lost?
Nothing in life is permanent
When you are feeling down, it is easy to believe that it will be like this forever. But that is not at all the case… Luckily!
I am not alone
It was never easy for me to open up regarding my doubts but whenever I did, it seemed like most of the people could understand me.
Everything has a reason
Looking back, these experiences led me to where I am now. I learned a lot about myself, I got reminded of my values, it gave me the courage to work on this project and it convinced me even more to take an important step regarding my professional path.
6- Why did it become such a common experience nowadays?
My theory is that it became a first world problem because of two main reasons. On one hand, we have our main needs covered so we have the luxury to think about what we want to do in life. And on the other hand, we are drowning in an overwhelming amount of options to choose from.