Carito (1978), communicator & journalist, Uffa ideas
1- What do you understand under feeling lost?
The feeling of being lost changes depending on the moment of your life that you are in. For example, it is not the same feeling when being 18, 30 or, like I am now, 40.
When I was 20, I just didn’t know who I was, what I wanted or who I desired to be. By that age, it was like being blind.
Today, while knowing who I am, being who I want to be and knowing my professional path, I still get to feel lost.
This sensation still is an integral and transversal experience but without completely losing my way. It is an unknown process/transition where I have to go through but I am aware of where it will lead me.
2- Please, describe a specific situation when you felt that way?
Four years ago, I left my comfort zone in Buenos Aires in order to learn how to live as a digital nomad traveling the world. I left almost everything behind, my job, my family and my friends.
I packed my bag, my laptop, my basic needs and off I went to a hostel in Rosario, Argentina.
Once I arrived there, I dropped my bag and suddenly I questioned myself:
And… What am I supposed to do now?
Should I work all day long? Should I meet new people? How many hours should I dedicate to my blog? Should I go and make some pictures? I had absolutely no idea.
There was this huge sense of freedom which came along with having no clue about what I had to do. At that moment anxiety about all the unknown was intense and I was incredibly afraid as I had no plan.
Now, let’s compare it to a more recent experience.
My girlfriend and I had a beautiful time exploring paradisiacal islands in Thailand. Two months of beach-time, well-structured work, and a precious house were waiting for us.
At one point, we took a ride on a motorbike. Ten seconds afterward I was entering an operating room and my entire body got bandaged.
As soon as I woke up, I couldn’t believe what had happened. People were talking to me in a totally foreign language (Thai), I was thousands of kilometers away from home and all my plans didn’t make sense anymore. I was completely lost.
In this case, feeling lost didn’t have anything to do with my age or anything else. It was something completely unpredictable and terrifying.
3- What helped you to overcome or to deal with the situation?
Traveling as a couple
Having my wife by my side was definitely the most important help during all those up and downs.
Running an online business
As I still had clients and a lot of work to do, I was busy staying productive and keeping up with my routine.
Doing meditation and listening to calm music allowed me to feel more at ease and to tune in with myself.
4- Which main lesson or result did you get out of this challenging time?
The main lesson that I take out of these challenging times is that any kind of crisis is a process with a beginning and an end.
5- What could be done to help somebody who is feeling lost?
- Feeling lost is a personal challenge that each one has to deal with on their own terms.
- Try to figure out what you are feeling lost in (Your personal life? Your professional life?…).
- Know that there are no recipes.
- Share your experience. It is never a waste of time as it will for sure help you or at least somebody else.
6- Why did feeling lost become such a common experience nowadays?
I am not really sure if this sensation of feeling lost is more present today than in other generations.
However, nowadays we have a lot of space to reflect on ourselves and our lives. What is more, we have an overwhelming amount of information at our disposition which leads us to question ourselves.
Also, through social media, we are comparing ourselves constantly. Then, we start to ask us questions like: Am I also having fun? Am I eating something as good as my other virtual friends? Do I also have something cool to show? This leads to constant dissatisfaction as we constantly crave for more.